Often when we think about male chastity – we consider the image of a completely subdued and submissive male being ruled by his sexual partner. Whilst some might play male chastity in this way – it’s not always the case. This kind of play involves the key holder as being a person who is in complete control, cares only for themselves and their own pleasure and satisfaction. The male, who is in a chastity cage, therefore exists to serve every one of his key holders pleasures and sexual deviances. This is one of the games that some people play with chastity devices, but it’s certainly not how everyone plays. The roles of the key holder in male chastity are important, and not something that everyone might understand. This is a responsibility rehashing.
Chastity is as much about the male being caged up as it is about the key holder. The male sees his fantasy as being fulfilled, that he is no longer able to please himself, and the idea of being “controlled” and dominated in that way arouses him – to him the teasing and denial of his orgasms is seen as ways to improve the passion in the relationship. A male in a chastity device could be a very dominating male, he could take care of his sexual partner in every other aspect such as financially, emotionally, be a loving a doting father and make the decisions for the household. Chastity devices simply means that he no longer has sexual freedom. Some people might find this emasculating, as it goes against the very idea of being a male. However, some people might find that very arousing, the idea that their maleness is in control of someone else. It sounds odd, but the psychological aspect of male chastity is the most alluring and arousing part of it. Why do I say this? Because if you’re going to be a key holder then you need to understand what is going through their minds, and why they’re so interested in male chastity, understanding their motivations behind it will be key to unlocking the best relationship out of this.